I want to talk about Go Fund Me.
I know I’m not going to be favoured for saying this but I’m going to say it because maybe some people feel the same way I do.
Go Fund Me has become the $5 daycare for stay at home moms. Those hard to get daycare spots that stay at home moms gobble up so they have alone time for the gym, nails, groceries, etc. Soliciting your FB friends for funding makes me cringe. Unless your account is open, you’re really depending on how ever many friends you have and you can’t imagine the pressure some feel to give when they can’t. If I don’t give, am I less of a friend? Do you interpret it as I don’t care?
I think I’m the poster child for Go Fund Me. I’ve been fighting cancer for a year, single, no income, no benefits, zero, with a kid playing AAA hockey and going to school and I never reached out for financial help, so when I see what some are using it for, I think, wow... let me know when you really need help, but then again, how many times will you dip into the well? So you need to be really careful, in my opinion, what you’re asking for.
I don’t want to divulge what the (wow) factor is for me but if you see yourself here and you’re annoyed with me then yes, it’s probably your story I’m referring to but don’t ask me if it is because I’ll deny it. I’m not trying to be mean, I’m just giving my opinion.
Can’t we offer to do chores, shovel walkways, something other than, I have a financial goal can you give me the money, because that’s what it is. It’s not a loan. It’s not a sponsorship. It’s a gift.
I don’t expect my opinion to make the funding issues change because everyone has their truth, but before you ask your friends for financial help ask yourself, would I knock on your door and ask face to face for the money to fund this?
Laura Muer is a native West Islander and single mom, and she's not defined by life’s curve balls.